|My students (who are also happily my daughters)|
It was time to go back and figure out what went wrong. We analyzed video, refined technique, worked on speed, and spent more time on the ice than we thought possible. They were determined to be on top the next time.
Over the weekend they had the chance to compete again. This time their scores reflected their determination and they came in first and second. We happily celebrated. But I also thought about the Buddha's saying (which I had just learned of), "One cannot gain until first he loses everything". I realized that they needed to lose. They needed to understand what was lacking and have the determination to make it to number 1. Sometimes as parents and coaches we try to shelter kids from losses, but maybe kids need to feel the pain of losing to become successful.